I feel like I must address something. This is going to be long.
Tumblr messaging system is not perfect. Sometimes, I do not receive people’s messages. There are plenty of times my own husband has sent me messages on tumblr and I did not get them. (tip, if you use “…” make sure to space after the dot, or that person will not get a message. There’s various other reasons why I don’t.)
Another, sometimes, I accidentally deleted all the messages I had in my inbox. Another is, I have a co-mod, who does sign on, and does read messages (he doesn’t feel comfortable answering them). I only go into the inbox when I have a notification. So, if he doesn’t tell me I have a message, I honestly won’t check.
I do not pick favorites on who I answer to. Most the people who send me messages are people I’ve never met/never talked to before. Dude, Jacob was just some random follower of mine, who kept talking to me. I eventually got to know him, and now he’s my roommate.
I also delete messages all the time AFTER I posted them. So, sometimes, I posted the message, and the response, and the person didn’t see it. If you are anon, how am I supposed to know if you saw it? If you’re unanon, I do try to respond directly to you. I do not like cluttering dashboards. I LOATHE doing it. I hate going on my blog(like tumblr/blog/disneyyandmore) and seeing text post after text post, ask after asks. I delete them after a while because I personally do not like the clutter.
Another thing people don’t realize about me or how I run this blog. Is I get hatemail about EVERYTHING. I will get hatemail about this, I will get hatemail for posting a different opinion. (Unless I state in the beginning of my ask “please be respectable about my opinion” then usually people hold their tongues) I will get hatemail for posting a picture. I get hatemail over gifsets sometimes.
If I post a picture, and I then get 4 messages telling me I’m beautiful. (WHICH I LOVE AND DO APPRECIATE) If I post them all back to back, I will get some mean person in my ask box telling me, “No. You’re fucking ugly.” ”Idk why you get compliments” “tbh, I didn’t even think you’re all that.” That happens A LOT, all the time actually.
Guys, I get hatemail every day. EVERY DAY. And I do not post them all. And I don’t post every ask so I can prevent hatemail.
If there was a controversy on the blog, and you want to send me your two cents, I DO read them, and I DO care. However, if I want the situation to die. I will NOT post them because I do not want MORE messages of people fighting. And I hate having to toggle on my ask box when this situation happens. It’s a lot to deal with when 10-15 people are debating with you on your OPINION and they call you stupid and dumb and that I should go jump off a bridge for it.
When I got that anon who called me ugly, I spent about 20 minutes, print screening EVERY ask I got and said thank you. I had over 100 asks. I appreciate them, I really honestly, to the bottom of my heart do. But I’m not gonna post 100 asks. I’m not.
Also, like I said, I HATE cluttering people’s dashboards. So many times, especially in the disney fandom, people will just post ask after ask, after ask. And I don’t care enough to get angry or to yell at them, or to bother them about it. I just deal with it. However, there are many people NOT like me, that will yell at me for doing it. And I have to endure this, while every other Disney blog is posting 20 asks per 5 minutes and gets no hatemail.
I’ve been on tumblr for 4 years, I do like to keep my dash semi organized with what I post. I try not to post too much of the same movie in one day. I try to post a variety, and that deals with my asks as well.
I also have a full time job, and before that job, I worked a lot as well, and when I’m not working, I’m making a gifset, and I forget to respond. I don’t deliberately try to not posts asks because I hate you, or dislike you. I do it to relieve myself from stress from the mean people on tumblr. I do not want hate mail. I also try to answer everyone I can. But if people are sending me the same thing over and over again, I don’t want to continue repeating myself, I also don’t want to ignore people either.
I prefer messages off anon. I do respond a lot to those. Right now, there are a couple messages in my ask box, and I respond to them one by one if they are unanon.
I understand getting upset if I don’t respond to you, but I am a good person, and I do have a life outside of tumblr, and I do my best to do everything for this blog. I am a popular blog. But that doesn’t mean I think I’m better than you guys.
So, if you feel like I’ve ignored you, I’m sorry. But I respect and appreciate every ask I get. And I try to respond when I can or to the best of my ability. It also takes me like 10 minutes to respond to an ask because I try to think about what I say before I say it.
So, in all. I’m sorry. But please understand all this before you think of me as a jerk or something. (I know this person isn’t calling me that, I’m just saying.)